Nuclear Family - Strategy of International Diplomacy

Nuclear Family - Strategy of International Diplomacy

Relatively recent studies have shown that men and women indeed think and
perceive differently especially in the area of interpersonal relationship.
Men would fight and argue with each other about anything without concealing
their emotions. It often involves throwing insulting remarks at each other.
But to women's surprise, many of these confrontations will end with their
friendship staying intact. This is because, to men, everything is a game,
even human relationship.

Naturally, this is not always the case. Men's friendships can fall out as a
result of these heated arguments, but the difference here is that men simply
have no interest in preserving relationship for its own sake. Women on the
other hand are naturally inclined to preserve any given relationship. From
the perspective of evolutionary psychology (if this is your cup of tea), it
makes sense that women instinctively want to preserve their given
relationship, because they were in charge of holding their families and
their immediate communities together.

Family is a unit of survival. Especially in the old days, it was an absolute
necessity. No one chooses to be born into any family. Your family is given
to you whether you like it or not. Women have acquired a delicate skill of
diplomacy that enables them to keep together any given group of people. Men,
on the other hand, would not work with anything that was simply given to
them. They form their own groups by wielding their own power.

This traditional male strategy of winning at any cost is becoming an
international problem. In our post-nuclear era, the world has become an
increasingly small place. The world, in a way, is becoming one big family
where we cannot survive without the cooperation of each other. Ironically,
what helped to reach this state are the nuclear bombs. Nations can no longer
afford to say to other nations, "Screw you guys."

Despite this predicament, the politicians around the world, most notably
George W. Bush, Tony Blair, Jacques Chirac, and of course Saddam Hussein,
are insisting on using the barbaric male strategy of winning at any cost,
throwing insults and threats at each other. Their tactlessness has been one
of the most astonishing aspects of this whole Iraq problem. And, seeing
someone like Condoleezza Rice play a role of a background singer for Bush
using the same tactless strategy is even more disconcerting.

Obviously "feelings" do matter as women have always insisted. Bush and
Chirac have been going at each other more to protect their own egos than to
be concerned about the welfare of the human race. Much time has been wasted
simply because they hurt each other's feelings by insulting each other. This
is quite ridiculous if you consider the positions they hold, and the high
degree of education that they presumably have.

And, this childishness have been manifesting at every level. The pro-war
people and the anti-war people have been yelling and screaming at each other
also by throwing a barrage of insults at each other. This is no way to solve
a problem within a family.

Today, more than ever, we need to observe our own behaviors, especially men,
and realize that, whether we like it or not, we were all born into this
small earth as a part of one big family. What we need for world peace is not
barbaric male strategy of winning at any cost, but more tactful female
diplomacy where feelings do matter (as gay as it may sound).

–
Dyske Suematsu
http://www.dyske.com
Where Nothing Is Everything